I am extremely proud of that, I am glad someone else appreciates that too 😄 (it's extra clever because the emojis & colors are chosen based on their PFP's, so it keeps the story "true to reality" in a way, I'm making it anonymous but retaining something of their personalities in there, which I think is nice. A reminder that these are all real people)
thank you Michelle!!!! I appreciate it especially coming from you (someone whose work involves understanding people honestly, meeting them where they are, helping them grow into their best selves). The real goal is to have a collection of these techniques that bring direct benefit to the individual, AND to anyone they interact with (and that it spreads as more people realize this is a win-win game)
I agree that trust-building is often overlooked in online arguments, and the suggestion to steelman the other person’s position first makes sense. It feels like a practical way to avoid misunderstandings and keep the conversation constructive. Thanks for sharing!
yes! I see this pattern WAY too often, smart, kind, genuine people falling into despair because they're failing to be heard. And I want more of those people to realize they can do better. Having a good faith argument is something *you* can initiate, even if the other person isn't cooperating (you can either learn something from them, that you can use to better understand others that are like them, OR you can shift them into good-faith listening to you by making them feel heard in this way)
obv the content here is wonderful, but can i just point out the anonymizing emojification is such a great lil trick to maintain clarity & personality while retaining privacy !!
i'd LOVE some kind of lil app that lets u feed in a handful of screenshots and does this automatically!
you could also have it then stitch together a single graphic of the conversation (like that dialogue tree idea), where the colours and emoji would be really mnemonically useful!
Can I just applaud your use of the bee and apple emojis? lol
I am extremely proud of that, I am glad someone else appreciates that too 😄 (it's extra clever because the emojis & colors are chosen based on their PFP's, so it keeps the story "true to reality" in a way, I'm making it anonymous but retaining something of their personalities in there, which I think is nice. A reminder that these are all real people)
I love and appreciate what you're doing here. I'm finding it very helpful, thought-provoking, AND instructive.
thank you Michelle!!!! I appreciate it especially coming from you (someone whose work involves understanding people honestly, meeting them where they are, helping them grow into their best selves). The real goal is to have a collection of these techniques that bring direct benefit to the individual, AND to anyone they interact with (and that it spreads as more people realize this is a win-win game)
I agree that trust-building is often overlooked in online arguments, and the suggestion to steelman the other person’s position first makes sense. It feels like a practical way to avoid misunderstandings and keep the conversation constructive. Thanks for sharing!
yes! I see this pattern WAY too often, smart, kind, genuine people falling into despair because they're failing to be heard. And I want more of those people to realize they can do better. Having a good faith argument is something *you* can initiate, even if the other person isn't cooperating (you can either learn something from them, that you can use to better understand others that are like them, OR you can shift them into good-faith listening to you by making them feel heard in this way)
What a lovely read. Breaking it down to the core of the thing.
obv the content here is wonderful, but can i just point out the anonymizing emojification is such a great lil trick to maintain clarity & personality while retaining privacy !!
i'd LOVE some kind of lil app that lets u feed in a handful of screenshots and does this automatically!
you could also have it then stitch together a single graphic of the conversation (like that dialogue tree idea), where the colours and emoji would be really mnemonically useful!