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Antony Van der Mude's avatar

One thing that people who study urban legends point out is that even if the facts are false, the legend represents a fundamental fear (or sometimes hope).

This points to another fundamental truth: the main purpose of language and communication is to express emotion - facts are secondary. I learned this from having grown up with dogs. Dogs have a rich language. It is as much a body language of posture as it is of growls, barks and howls. But it is mostly comprised of expressing what they are feeling.

I was sitting in the passenger seat of the car when I was 11, with our West Highland White Terrier, Jock, sleeping at my feet. I knelt down to pat him. He didn't want to be patted. He bit my wrist - just two canine teeth through the flesh - glared at me, then closed his eyes again. I got the message.

Dad didn't see it that way. He stopped the car, gave Jock a good thrashing, staunched the blood, then drove to the doctor for a rabies shot. Sheesh! Can't a dog just be left to have a nap?

Jock left our house soon after, since I was the only kid he could tolerate. Jock hated human children, except me. I still have the scar, though.

To get back to the main point, if you say something that challenges a person's fundamental model, the emotional subtext is that they are sleeping through life, with the illusions of safety in their fantasies. The result is that they are liable to bite.

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Lincoln Sayger's avatar

I'm guessing this is why agreeing with someone on, say, minimum wage and asking about the consequences is more successful than pointing out facts about its consequences.

"Okay, let's do it. Why not $100/hr?"

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